I'm not quite sure how to go about saying everything that has gone through my head and about my feelings. I'm kind of nervous to see the response I will get about this but here it goes.
I am currently 4 1/2 mos pregnant with my 3rd child. During my first pregnancy my husband and I did not practice domestic discipline (I had not realized it was the thing that I was missing/needing in my life). During my second pregnancy we had already started practicing DD, however I knew that my husband did not feel comfortable (for one it was new to us still and we didn't have any of the kinks worked out of it yet) disciplining me while I was pregnant. So, I really had to work through everything on my own. This I felt was more stressful on the pregnancy than if he had just disciplined me (we mainly use spanking as discipline it seems to be the most effective with me and it doesn't take time away from what I need to do with the kids or my rest).
Now that I am on my third pregnancy we have discussed this and both agree that I still need discipline even during my pregnancy, mainly because my acting out is due to stress and that's not good for the baby, however my husband still felt slightly uncomfortable (afaid he would hurt the baby). Although thankfully we have gotten past that. We have had another talk and have decided to not use the heavy paddle during pregnancy. We are using the ping pong paddle, strap, and just plain old hand. We are also doing longer spankings vs. harder spankings (believe me longer can be just as effective if not more effective than hard).
I, however, still feel guilty/ashamed for wanting/needing discipline during my pregnancy. I don't fell that I am doing anything to harm the baby. As a matter of fact I just had another check up and my doctor said that everything looked perfect and that my blood pressure was actually down which is a good thing (I had high blood pressure at the end of my other pregnancy and it caused complications during the delivery). I have looked everywhere for a sight that talked about discipline during pregnancy, but was unable to find one. I was afraid on other sites to even bring up the subject because I was afraid of what others might say. I feel more comfortable here. Nobody seems to put anybody down you all just seem to be supportive of eachother and I find that very refreshing.
I can't really explain where all this guilt/shame is coming from, but I guess not being able to find anybody else out there that wants, needs, or just receives discipline during pregnancy (or at least anybody that admits to it) makes me feel a little...oh I don't know the word I'm looking for...I guess perverse.
Sorry about going on and on about this, but I just needed to talk to someone other than my husband about this. My family just wouldn't understand they are very religious and anything out of the "ordinary" in their mind is just for (as they would put it) "Godless, drugged out, wierdo, freaks" (I heard that phrase a lot growing up). I mean in their minds it is bad enough that my husband has tattooes, an earring in his ear, and smokes, but if he laid a hand on me (more or less some other implement) even be it just to my butt they would freak out. They think of this as either BDSM or abuse (you can't explain anything to them believe me I have tried on many subjects).
Well, I guess I will go for now. I look forward to reading any comments anybody might have about this (even though I am a little worried of what others will think that is why I kind of tested the waters with my intro). Thanks for listening