I'm going to bide my time, amiles. I don't know you or your partner, and it's really hard to interpret tone and inference via the internet sometimes.
In reading between the lines, it sounds like you were not originally interested in the DD dynamic, and this was initiated by your top.
As someone who was pulled (more or less kicking and screaming) into TTWD by my bottom, I (PERSONALLY. I know this is MY issue) feel uncomfortable with the power exchange of tops that initiate. If you see the pattern in my posts going back two years, I've come into my power slowly. I wanted to be very, very sure that the exchange was "safe, sane and consensual" , which is a well known phrase in the community.
I don't hear that you want this. I may be wrong, so I'm going to wait to answer your question. Two spankings in one day are TOTALLY appropriate for a bottom that truly wants this dynamic. A wife that "agrees" to be spanked and submissive in order to please her husband (again, MY opinion,. but then isn't the point of a forum to share and appeal to to others for their opinions? None of us here is an expert.)
er . I talked myself into a tangle.
My point is that if you're not fully invested in ttwd then it's not cool.
I regret that this is the first response you've had from one of the mamas of this community. Hopefully we'll develop a good understanding of the ttwd that you and your partner share and we will be able to be useful to you in many ways. I don't claim to be a spokesperson for our forum, and I know that many couples (and other arrangements as well) have shared experience that will be more supportive and helpful to you.
I want to encourage you to share more about twYd, so we can gain a broader understanding - we're nosy f***ers!!!
Seriously, we share a lot about ourselves- it helps us create parallels to our own dd situations, and learn and grow. We can also e more supportive if we understand what it is that you do.
I am SO babbling but I am not apologizing.
Please encourage your HoH to join our Tops Forum!
Did I forget to say welcome? Welcome!!!