To give credit where it's due, that insight about some bottoms wanting their tops to be 'perfect' so we don't have to be perfect any more, came originally from Homeatlast. It certainly did hit home for me too though, and helped to open my eyes a little more.
What to do about it? Here I can only speak for myself. A theme of our 20+ year relationship, that we keep reminding each other about, is "perfection doesn't exist". And recently, I find I am less and less insistent that P needs to punish me in a certain way, speak to me in just the right tone, etc. etc. I take what I get and I'm grateful for it, because I have a lot to be grateful for!
This thing we do
You can call it domestic discipline, rules, structure, or getting your needs met. This is a non-judgmental forum for adults who use some form of external discipline in their lives.
This just isn't working.
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Re: This just isn't working.
by Eayore » Tue Aug 10, 2010 7:04 am
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Re: This just isn't working.
by Eayore » Sun Aug 15, 2010 3:55 pm
TryingReallyHard, now I have read some of your other posts, I am wondering if I understood your comment, "...I just don't know what to DO about it." Besides the fact that you may not have been asking for suggestions anyway, I'm not sure what was the "it" exactly.
I'd love to hear more, if you want to say any more. Equally if you don't want to, that's fine with me.
I'd love to hear more, if you want to say any more. Equally if you don't want to, that's fine with me.
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by Julia » Sun Aug 22, 2010 6:29 pm
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Re: This just isn't working.
by Naughty butt Nice » Mon Aug 23, 2010 12:07 pm
Sounds like an interesting solution congrats.
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Including hands and implements!
What goes up must come down!
Including hands and implements!
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Re: This just isn't working.
by TryingReallyHard » Tue Aug 24, 2010 1:24 am
~TRH
"The pressure makes us stronger; the struggle makes us hunger.
The hard lessons make the difference, and the difference makes it worth it." -Fireflight
"The pressure makes us stronger; the struggle makes us hunger.
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