I was surfing on the net and I red something in a blog that I am still wondering about... I feel I little bit in anguish, please help me.
I've realized I really have no clues in such situation and, surprisingly, no source mentions it. I'll go in depth.
It would seem that DD is heaven on heart and everybody is happy and goes on for all his/her life long, but what if DD goes wrong and one of the two wants to quit and the other not?
The blog I red, reported a kind of couselling between the blogger and a guest. The latter started saying that his lady was continuously reluctant to submit to punishments, and always desperately crying, and locking herself in the bathroom saying she did not want to go that way any longer... and her HoH, surprisingly, was asking the "expert" how hard he could punish her to make her go back to her place. And the so-called-expert was vomiting a lot of awful advices on figging, and submitting her to hundrends of strokes with the hardest implements he had, and encouraging hoh to insist and to introduce daily hard mantainance spankig. It was escalating to sadism, but the most unbeliaveble thing to me that they were so focused on her obedience that were not really able to get the point. It seemed that they could not even consider and accept the situation as it clearly was.
I posted my original doubt: but if she wants to quit, as long as DD is supposed to be consensual, why not to let her go?
the so-called expert replied to me in such pedantic style that he would reccomend her to ask for a professional counselling that can help her in improving her wrong attitude, and than to make a careful balance of what she risked to lose quitting, and to explain her HoH why she was going to quit... and this and that.
I was quite shocked,( I am still while I am writing)
No problem with counsellors, but it seemed to be that this never ending story was just a way to put her under pressure and make her more difficult to quit. IF SHE SAYS NO LONGER, IT MUST BE NO LONGER! if any other husband would behave like that, he could be arrested as abuser or stalker!!!!
And then I have realized that I have never ever find any article, post, blog, book whatever, dealing with how to manage if it happens. you can see such a "consensus" of the benefits of DD, and who started never ever wanted to do without... and it seems that way back is not an option...
and it is so strange, because we all are human beings, and it can occur any time that a HoH hurts his lady in a way that she loses her trust, or develops a such strong resentment that ends the relationship, like in all the other non DD dynamics, but nobody says that. I do not want to hurt anybody's feelings, please forgive me in advance for what I am saying, it's just like in 50s hollywood movies when all the married couples were smiling and kissing goodbye on the threshold.
Why so much silence on such a normal, not preventable event? have I missed something? Are we trapped into a taboo?
what do you think? Have I misanderstood something? Please, let me understand, so I can heal from this sorrow that seems not to want to give any rest to me.