Hopefully this post doesnt come out as too much of a rant, because I'm actually in a pretty positive (if frustrated) mood. I have several things I need to vent and the board generally seems pretty accepting of such things. So...Allonsy!
I'm a spanko to the core, been hardwired since I was young. Always a deep dark secret until I was dating my wife, when I wrote her a note proposing a dd-style arrangement (at the time not having read much on the subject). She was open to the idea and I started getting spanked periodically for missing chores.
Over time, we got into playing light bdsm games and switched back and forth. When I was Top, she'd be spanked as part of the game. As time went on, I proposed that we add more chores to the dd plan and that we split them. She was on board and from that point forward we had some kind of dd in place. Since then, weve been married, moved halfway across the country and had a baby. The plan has changed and evolved, but its been active and ongoing.
I've written this history to provide perspective, sorry it was so long. The reason for my post now, and the source of my frustration, is that our plan works *too* well. Chores get done, tasks are completed, we meet our weight goals, it all runs like clockwork.
Great!....but not! For example, I'll give you something fresh from today's events. Last night, I assigned my wife the task of getting her education stuff in order by writing that in the journal followed by an ominous "or else..." This morning I get an email from her telling me how shes called this person and that and getting it all set up.
On one hand, I am very happy shes getting all this done as we want her to get back into school. On the other though...she's too damn efficient :p
How do you spank the perfect girl?
Im far from perfect (and I do think she could hold me to a more exacting standard, but thats a different post), but were in a similar boat with me. I dont miss tasks/chores unless I do so on purpose, which isnt really how this is supposed to work.
How do I fix the perfect broken arrangement?