What does the top get out of this?

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What does the top get out of this?

Postby JigsawAnalogy » Sat Oct 09, 2010 7:22 pm

Here's a link to an interesting post over at the Punishment Book. It's a real-life conversation between a bottom and a top about what Chris (the top) gets out of the relationship. I figured that people here might not read the Punishment Book quite so regularly as I do, and I thought you all would be interested.
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Re: What does the top get out of this?

Postby Eayore » Sun Oct 10, 2010 5:28 pm

Thanks for letting us know about this. Very interesting!
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Re: What does the top get out of this?

Postby KSK » Mon Oct 11, 2010 5:19 am

I liked that post a lot. Thanks for sharing!!
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Re: What does the top get out of this?

Postby Dreamgirl » Mon Oct 11, 2010 11:49 am

I always wondered about this question. :thinking: What they are saying is that even tho the top is NOT a spanko, he/she can still feel good out of the realization that ttwd is helping their partner, kinda collective happiness thing.
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Re: What does the top get out of this?

Postby Need-to-lead » Thu Jul 12, 2012 7:33 pm

For me, the thrill is in the trust my wife displays every time she submits. That she will put herself in my hands while I take her to places she hasn't been before is an amazing gift. Total turn-on.
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Re: What does the top get out of this?

Postby Louise » Thu Aug 02, 2012 11:03 am

What my husband gets out of it is that I am more cooperative, pay more attention to what he wants me to do, and am more affectionate towards him. And he enjoys being able to 'take it out on your bottom' as he puts it, when he is annoyed with me about something.
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