So, I got thinking about what is one of the most frustrating, and yet most helpful situations in me and E's DD relationship: threatening to spank me.
The problem is that E is inconsistent on following through with the threatened spanking (and I think, from reading other posts here, that he's not alone). So sometimes, I'm like "oh yeah right, whatever, (eye rolling)" to myself in my head when he says that, which is definitely NOT a submissive feeling. Or I find myself dissapointed when the spanking doesn't happen, rather than feeling sorry for my infraction.
Then again, over the course of TTWD, him gently putting his hand around my waist and hip and announcing to our friends that we couldn't go with them but we were going to be very busy ( I knew exactly what he meant) was a moment of a lot of importance.
And a few of those, "keep it up and we'll see if you can sit down tommorrow" or the even tougher, and slightly cowboy, "I am going to tan your hide when we get home" have been the moments that made DD valuable for us.
So what do you all think? Is it valuable to threaten spankings, or does it potentially hinder the relationship?