I just realized that i never got round to answering this ...
So here goes:
1 Did it start with a verbal or written agreement-- with you giving your submission to him/her. Or did it just naturally evolve from when you first met
Verbal but not written-- and it did evolve over time.
2 Were there rules , like the 3 Ds agreed to?Or specific rules set up with specific consequences?
Yes we had certain kind of silly rules --like im never allowed to answer with "whatever" unless im looking for a quick trip OTK --but basically the three Ds cover about everything
3. Was your hoh given "blanket consent" to spank you by force if needed or do you have to specifically submit to each spanking? yes he does have blanket consent to spank me --by force if i wont stay in place--even if im pleading to stop. Ive never refused to submit at the beginning so dont know what hed do then--wed prolly talk it out, but in our agreement the final decision of whether to punish or not is left to him.
4. Whose idea was it? Actually Id had a dd relationship in the past from my ex so i liked it so i was the proposer of it but we already did foreplay spanking and roleplay spanking so he took to it pretty readily. I think possibly he was a vanilla with a chocolate inside.
5 Were there any boundaries agreed to as to punishments (hard limits)?
Originally the cane was on my hard limits but no longer--we even have a Delrin now. Also on my hard limits is anything where im spanked anywhere other than the bottom or upper thighs. anal sex, butt plugs, ginger roots and any gags or handcuffs (im too claustrophobic), threesomes, are all on my hard limits list as well. [Not that hes ever tried or asked for any of these anyways.]