My boyfriend and I have decided for the moment to stop with ttwd, and keep spanking for play scenarios. I am in a place at the moment where I'm seeing too many examples of men objectifying and depersonalising women, and I don't wish to allow any man authority over me (or woman, come to that). I'm also finding it hard to come across descriptions of ttwd without words that are emotive for me, such as disrespect and disobedience. Or even just discussions that make it clear the top is thinking of their own convenience and not the bottom's emotional health. My boyfriend also needs to learn more about the theory and practice of ttwd, because he has been acting on his interpretation of what I tell him, and that has led to too many errors.
I will continue to be part of the board and contribute to discussions, and I hope that we'll get back to the life that I want to have. It's just that the conflicting issues that have been bothering me for so long have come to a head, and for now this is the only way I can be true to myself. If anyone knows of a blog with a revolutionary approach to ttwd, with co-authority as its basis, I would be grateful if you could let me know.
Thanks and thank you all for being here, for being interesting, and for being great xxx
'I had made the mistake of powering up my consciousness without having the appropriate scaffolding in place'
Marni Jackson, 'Pain'