I beat myself up - so if he does it I don't have to

[splorange]

TTWD is pretty new for me - I've been thinking about it, attracted to the idea, for a long time, but was put off it for a variety of reasons. However, my boyfriend and I eventually decided to implement it and I'm on day 2 under the new rules. Last night I burnt a pot of rice. I was chatting with my housemates and not focusing on what I was cooking and the water boiled off. The rice was black. The pot was black. The smoke went through the whole kitchen, and it stank. When I threw the rice away, my eyes stung from the smoke. The pot hissed when I poured cold water on it. (Scene setting - it was VERY VERY VERY burnt.) I salvaged the pot by heating washing powder for about 2 hours and scrubbing it out, and my housemates forgave me for smoking out their kitchen. So all's well, yes?

Well, not really. This is where I would normally start reliving the situation, so that this time in my head I didn't burn my dinner and put a pot out of action for the night, this time I wasn't so careless, etc.... And good heavens all this for the sake of a hundred grams of rice. I didn't say I was logical. However, a pot of rice has the potential to ruin my night apparently. But instead, I texted the chief, and asked for a spanking. And then I forgot about it.

Spanking is coming on Friday morning. I've never felt better about future pain

[Sara'sGirl(SG)]

Yeah, it doesn't work *exactly* the same way inside me (and I seldom get upset about food I burn, possibly since it happens so frequently...or maybe just b/c Sara likes food crispy--or at least she's managed to convince me of that), but I definitely get how being spanked/punished for something can help that ridiculous circle in my head that I sometimes just can't make stop on my own! I'm glad to see you are getting to experience this, and that so far it's working well for you!

[splorange]

Dancing guy is so cute aw does Sara do that just so you don't feel bad about burning her dinner? That's so sweet of her!

[JigsawAnalogy]

I'm super careful about paying attention to food when I'm cooking. Not 100% perfect, but I know my memory isn't the best, so I think I over compensate.

Either that, or the time I was in high school and making dinner, and got so engrossed in the book I was reading that I burnt a pot of rice that badly, and my mother made me start reading more non-fiction as a consequence (she didn't seem to realize that there's plenty of engrossing non-fiction out there... but, hey, it was a total win for me, because there are a lot of books I never would have discovered without that "punishment").

I also have W help with things where I'd otherwise beat myself up, but I don't think it works as effectively for me as it does for some people. I have a harder time letting go of responsibility, and convincing myself that things are over and done with after a spanking.

Well, I guess it depends on what I did. There are some things that I can pretty much let go of guilt over, but some things, not so much.

[splorange]

Yeah, I'm with you there. For really important stuff, I actually don't tend to beat myself up too much. Well, probably if I let someone else down big time I would. But mostly it's just me, so I just get on with it. Relationships I used to, a whole lot.... reliving conversations over and over. Now, I think the biggest one is when i get a parking fine. Next time one of those comes along, I definitely think the spanking will relieve the obsessing.

Non-fiction is awesome. It's actually the only smart books I read these days... fiction wise I mostly read junk, so at least my brain's not turning to rot.

[Sara'sGirl(SG)]

JA that is a terrible punishment!! I *really* don't like reading non-fiction. Ugh. I'll read just about anything fiction wise, but non-fiction just seems boring to me. I have burned many a dinner b/c of reading.

splorange, I constantly think that Sara just *says* she likes crispy things just to make me feel better. But she does like her toast dark and frequently requests crispy (read: burned) tortillas b/c she says she likes them. It reminds me just a little too much of how my mom told me that my dog wasn't at home anymore because she gave him to a nice family with a farm where he could run and play with the horses (I was 25 before I realized this wasn't true. A friend mentioned that as a common euphemistic way to tell a kid their dog had died, and I was like, "no no I really did have a dog that went to a farm, my mom told me...") . But in this case, I think she really does like crispy/burned things. Luckily.

I can usually let stuff go when Sara spanks me for that purpose simply b/c those are some of the worst spankings I've ever had. She is very good at convincing me that no matter how guilty I feel about something, she has more than ensured that I've paid for it.

[JigsawAnalogy]

[Nat]

I don’t read ANY non-fiction, other than books on writing – I think living non-fiction is enough.

The one thing I beat myself up about is not paying enough attention to the things that matter to Liz, although I’m getting better at that. Fortunately – or unfortunately – Liz doesn’t spank me for that, although she does sometimes bring it to my attention when punishing me for something else.

[splorange]

[Louise]

I would certainly get spanked for burning the dinner, but it would be because it annoyed my husband, for myself I wouldn't care that much. I quite often get into trouble for not concentrating on what I am suppposed to be doing.

I read both fiction and non fiction, my favourite non fiction is history.

Louise