This thing we do

by **Meg** » Tue Mar 01, 2011 11:11 pm

I am kind of proud of myself and of Obsidian.

I have a history of verbal abuse from my childhood, so I tend to get triggered by verbal "stuff"...such as Obsidian being angry and verbal reprimands....*but* for the last week or so, I have been handling them ok, and I haven't been been fighting back when scolded.

This is a HUGE accomplishment for us.

by **brightlyblaze** » Tue Mar 01, 2011 11:54 pm

Good for you, amethyst! That's awesome. I hope this new trend sticks around for you :many:

by **BickaBecka** » Wed Mar 02, 2011 2:12 am

I'm glad to hear it

This sort of thing can sometimes take away fears like that.... I'm glad it has for you

by **JigsawAnalogy** » Wed Mar 02, 2011 11:01 am

Yay! Sounds like progress. :cheers:

by **TryingReallyHard** » Wed Mar 02, 2011 2:31 pm

Kidding... kidding...

Good for you!!!

by **Meg** » Wed Mar 02, 2011 6:32 pm

Thanks everyone.

TRH..... :nanana:

by **Eayore** » Wed Mar 02, 2011 7:30 pm

Congratulations! I must admit (dare I say it?) that soap was the first thing that popped into my mind when I read this too. I think it's nice that you didn't mention it yourself. Maybe the 2 aren't related.

by **Meg** » Wed Mar 02, 2011 7:46 pm

No...

played a big role...you're right.

Although, so far I have only needed it twice after the first time. 0:)

Hopefully, I won't need it anymore...but, well ya know.

There was a close call last night *after* I posted starting this thread....but we got through it without me getting any :soap:

Whew!!!

by **JigsawAnalogy** » Thu Mar 03, 2011 10:10 am

I say that accepting discipline, and finding a solution that's effective, is something to be proud of. So even if the soap was involved, you are still doing the work. Kind of like if you need a walking stick to make a long hike, hey, you're still making the long hike, right?

by **Meg** » Thu Mar 03, 2011 2:41 pm

Thanks Jigsaw.

See...if I can stop the primal kneejerk response to snap back, then I can usually find a better way to handle the situation...but the response is often so fast, that there is no time for a better response. When I was about to go off...I the memory of the soap stopped me long enough to think through a better way of handling things. When that happened, and averted a few fights, I became less afraid, so that the next couple of times, the kneejerk response didn't happen.

We are not all there yet...had a minor setback, as I talked about...but in some ways, this is HUGE, because my inability to handle verbal correction was/is one of the major barriers to our being able to do the ttwd dance.