Would any of you judge me?

Some of us had perfect happy bunny rainbow ice cream childhoods. Some of us had childhoods that were reasonably okay. And some of us were abused. Much as I'd like to pretend it has nothing to do with my life now, I know that those old issues can rear their ugly heads. Not to mention coping with the judgmental tone a lot of the "healing" literature takes about S/M, let alone the disciplinary stuff.

Would any of you judge me?

Postby Cinderella » Mon Jan 04, 2010 10:30 am

If i told you what ruined my life when i was 14?
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Re: Would any of you judge me?

Postby Cinderella » Mon Jan 04, 2010 10:33 am

Even though life was worse before that point.. when i was 14 it was my own choice as a way of getting through :(
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Re: Would any of you judge me?

Postby Homeatlast » Mon Jan 04, 2010 11:41 am

I can't speak for anyone else but work very hard at not judging others. Especially for stuff they did when they were 14!

I would say though that as safe as this forum feels you may want to use the private post section for something very personal if that would make you feel a little safer?

And to keep yourself really safe, only share what you can cope with and what you feel comfortable with.

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Re: Would any of you judge me?

Postby Cinderella » Mon Jan 04, 2010 1:02 pm

Hey thanx. maybe i will continue in the private section. its not like i committed a crime against anyone But it was more to do with the type of family i have.
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Postby Eayore » Mon Jan 04, 2010 7:58 pm

I definitely would not judge you. That's not to say you should feel obliged to share anything, but if you want to, please count on me not to judge.
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Re: Would any of you judge me?

Postby Cinderella » Mon Jan 04, 2010 8:14 pm

Thank you. i noticed that you replied to me in dd bottoms forum about childhood ghosts. i will appreciate opening up and think i will take homeatlasts advice and do so in the private section.
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Postby G.D. » Mon Jan 04, 2010 8:29 pm

I would also like to offer my support & reassurance of a non-judgemental response.

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Postby Cinderella » Tue Jan 05, 2010 7:36 am

Thank you.
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Re: Would any of you judge me?

Postby JigsawAnalogy » Wed Jan 06, 2010 1:57 pm

i replied in the other thread, but i'll add my voice to the others in saying that i wouldn't judge people for anything they did to cope (so long as they weren't coping by intentionally hurting someone else). and when you're 14, honestly, you don't have a fully developed brain, so you're even less responsible for the choices you make.

the point is, if as an adult you're willing to take responsibility for your life from that point forward, and change the harmful behaviors you used in the past.
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Postby Cinderella » Wed Jan 06, 2010 2:16 pm

thanx i'll go and read your post.
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